RELEVANT MAGAZINE recently printed an article that my wife and I wrote together on money. We hope this is helpful to you.
Have you ever noticed how everyone around you always seems to say the right things about money? They want to save up. They want to invest. They want to build an emergency fund. They want to be debt-free and give and tithe and drive used cars and cook at home and cut up all their credit cards and pay cash for everything. Yet the average American now owes somewhere around $10,000 just on credit cards. Something isn't adding up.
People's actions ultimately prove their attitudes, and their attitude toward money dictates how people relate to it, how they spend it, how it makes them feel and even whether or not it will be the issue that eventually splits their marriage up.
If you told me you loved to run, work out, lift weights, play basketball and exercise, but you were 60 pounds overweight, always sick, didn’t own a pair of running shoes and hadn’t been to a gym or a fitness club in a year, I would be tempted to think you were lying. If you tell yourself you’re disciplined with your money and are going to save up and spend less and stop eating out and cut back on luxuries while your credit card statements keep piling up—it's time for a reality check. So let’s get really honest.
Here’s a short list of questions to help you discover your true attitude toward money:
1. On your credit cards, do you currently owe more than you make in a month?
2. Do you buy things to make yourself feel better? Do you get a good, settled feeling after you make a purchase?
3. Do you envy the lifestyle your friends have or the things they own? Do you fantasize about owning those same things and having that same lifestyle?
4. Do you eat out more than four times a week?
5. How much food do you have in your house?
6. In regard to entertainment, do you spend more than $250 per month on your cable bill, going to the movies, video games, downloads on iTunes or the latest technological toy? What about your cell phone bill? Ouch.
7. Do you immediately get defensive anytime someone begins to ask for your money—your church, a charity or a nonprofit organization? (This is a sure sign that you actually want to hold on to your money and that you have difficulty sharing your money with others, even those in dire need.)
8. Are you cheap when you leave a tip at a restaurant, thinking the server doesn’t really deserve the money and you could use it better somewhere else?
9. What percentage of your salary or income do you give away? This could be in the form of a tithe, donations, helping out a local charity and so on. (Donating old clothes you don’t wear to Goodwill or the Salvation Army doesn’t count.)
10. Do you ever have an internal struggle before you make a big purchase (try to talk yourself out of it, think of all the other things the money could be used for), or do you spend freely with little regret until hours or days later?
11. Do you fear what life would be like without the safety you think money brings you? Do you find yourself devoting more time to worrying about money than being concerned about people who have no job, no food, no health insurance or no one to love them and care for them?
12. Do you even know how much your monthly bills are, right off the top of your head? (These include health insurance, auto insurance, rent, tuition, credit-card payments, student loans, phone bill, water and power.) If you don’t know this amount automatically, you are in trouble, because it shows you are not paying attention to where your money goes each month.
13. Could you, in 30 seconds or less, summarize your basic budget? This includes how much you make, how much you save, how much you give and how much you pay out in bills and payments each month. If you can’t, then you don’t have a budget at all, even if you claim you do.
14. How long does it take you to pay a regular, basic bill? Do you let bills stack up on your desk? Do you open them when they arrive or put them off until after they are past due? How much do you pay a year in late fees due to fear, laziness or forgetfulness?
15. And finally … Right now, how much money do you have saved up? Add up what you have in your checking account, your savings account(s), IRAs, life-insurance policies, stocks, bonds, cash in coffee cans buried in the yard and loose change on your desk. Now, compare that number to what you currently owe, including all credit cards, student loans, car loans and any other outstanding debt. Which number is greater? By how much?
**Taken from 12 Questions To Ask Before You Marry by Clayton and Sharie King**